HANDELN – the book to go deeper

The seven steps

HANDELN combines NLP, the work on beliefs based on Albert Ellis and physical experience into a path of seven steps. NLP, in short, is a toolbox that describes how thinking, language and learned inner patterns interact – and how you recognise and change patterns that hold you back. In German, the first letters of the seven steps spell the word it is all about.

1. Hinhören – Listening closelyNot listening to the content, but to the pattern: What happened, how does your body react to it – and in which direction are you moving without noticing?
2. Anerkennen – AcknowledgingThe pattern isn’t fought; instead, the protection behind it is given dignity – because only when your nervous system feels safe is change possible at all.
3. Nachfragen – Asking furtherThe invisible sentence between event and reaction becomes visible – first in language, then in the body: Where exactly do you feel it, and what does this part of you need?
4. Dahinterliegende Absicht – The underlying intentionTwo movements at once: finding the good intention behind the pattern and honestly checking whether the old sentence is still fit for your life today.
5. Erleben – ExperiencingThe decisive step: the new sentence doesn’t stay in your head but is anchored with posture, breath and inner sensing so that you can call it up again.
6. Losgehen – Setting offThe first concrete step – today, not someday – and deliberately kept separate from experiencing, because inner experience and outer action are two different levels.
7. Nachjustieren – ReadjustingNot just “What do I do differently now?” but “Who am I now?” – the new sentence isn’t only lived, it becomes part of who you are.

Not just understanding follow-through, but experiencing it.

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